I've jumped from relationship to relationship, knowing that I wasn't ready to settle down for good. I've learned how to establish strong connections, relationship skills, and have had many epiphanies about myself during those times. Some… (Show more)
I've jumped from relationship to relationship, knowing that I wasn't ready to settle down for good. I've learned how to establish strong connections, relationship skills, and have had many epiphanies about myself during those times. Some even ended mutually, and my average relationship lasts 2 years (longest was 6 years) with little to no lag time between them.
I'm 32 and am getting to the point where I'm ready to settle down and am done with casual and short term relationships. There's just one thing I haven't conquered.
I've never really been single for more than a few months.
I'm recently single and am ready to give it a good effort, but I'm having trouble understanding the point of being single. What should I be looking to get out of single life?
I have an awesome job, and I'm financially free and don't need to work. I'm very goal-oriented and have personal, family,career, financial, social, fitness, spiritual, and other goals that I work on regularly. I travel a lot (maybe too much) for fun with friends/lovers. I see all my close friends at least once a week and finally have a good relationship with my family. I'm happy with myself and my station in life. I practice gratitude and meditation daily, and I've got good control over my emotions and understanding about the triggers that cause them. I'm always learning/trying new things and have lots of hobbies/interests. I like working on my routines and am pretty good with staying productive.
Is the point of single life to just do more of these things? Should I be working towards my goals more fervently without the distraction of women? Is my desire to understand single life even valid since I have my veritable ducks in a row? Do I need to be celibate? Do I need to work more on understanding myself? What resources do you recommend for single peeps (I've read your books!)? When do I know that enough singleness is enough?