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Below are questions that have been submitted for me to answer. Logged in members can upvote any question by clicking the up arrow next to it. Every few months I’ll pick some of the most upvoted questions (as well as some other questions I think are particularly good) and answer them in one of my Ask Me Anything videos.

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What is your opinion on Adlerian psychology?

I just finished reading the book: ‘The Courage To Be Disliked’, and I was wondering what your opinion is on Adlerian psychology.

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Is America in as bad a state as I think?

I am am scared and disheartened by the state of this country in regards to civil rights, rights of LGBTQI people. It feels like the alt right is taking over and we are headed back to… (Show more)

I am am scared and disheartened by the state of this country in regards to civil rights, rights of LGBTQI people. It feels like the alt right is taking over and we are headed back to the 1950’s where abortion is illegal and black people can’t vote. I’ve gotten off Facebook but I’m still kind of obsessed and sad. It doesn’t help I live in Alabama and I still see people wearing Trump shirts and hats. I want to be a rational person and seek the truth. I don’t know what to do. I love all your work, you have helped me tremendously. Thanks.
Kim

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Are there any practises you and your wife find helpful to keep your relationship boundaries strong and healthy?

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What's your thoughts on Alan Watts and his writing?

I find myself really enjoying reading him explaining his general philosophy, and he seems to do an excellent job of summarizing Eastern thought without bastardizing it. Having watched your video on 5 levels of the self,… (Show more)

I find myself really enjoying reading him explaining his general philosophy, and he seems to do an excellent job of summarizing Eastern thought without bastardizing it. Having watched your video on 5 levels of the self, it seems like much of what he says about the self coincides with your views, though I may have misinterpreted some things.

However, it seems like a lot of woo-woo culture of the 60s and onwards sort of spun off from a lot of this general philosophy, whether he was the origin or not. Just want to keep my head about me before I go about dropping Deepak Chopra quotes like it's hot.

-Lorne

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How to make friends after graduating from college?

It seems that it is hard to keep in touch with my friends after graduating college since a lot of them moved away to different areas around the country. Also, now that I’m not in school,… (Show more)

It seems that it is hard to keep in touch with my friends after graduating college since a lot of them moved away to different areas around the country. Also, now that I’m not in school, it feels really hard to meet more people and make friends. I have been feeling really lonely lately for that reason. What advice would you have for someone to make friends in such situation?

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Fuck My Fucking Feelings!

I love your article on feelings and how they fuck me up. I know that I'm overly influenced (read "ruled") by my feelings, much to my detriment. Can you give me more on how to put… (Show more)

I love your article on feelings and how they fuck me up. I know that I'm overly influenced (read "ruled") by my feelings, much to my detriment. Can you give me more on how to put my feelings in the back seat?

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How do you identify and come to understand what you are feeling at any give point in time

Hi Mark, Following on my question above, what I would like to know and have a netter idea about is how do I know what I am feeling at any given point in time. I have… (Show more)

Hi Mark,

Following on my question above, what I would like to know and have a netter idea about is how do I know what I am feeling at any given point in time.

I have been making a conscious effort to try and identify my feelings at any give point in time but have come to realise that it is not that simple. Sometimes, when the feelings are intense I have a good idea what they are and how to identify them but sometime I have no idea what hat they are are how to identify them. I know I am feeling something but what exactly that is o have no idea.

I would like to know if you have some guidance on how to identify my feeling better or maybe point me in a direction as to what sources I can consult that will be useful in this regards.

I can’t say whether the reason for not being able to identify them is because I can’t name the feeling or don’t understand it but if you have some guidance in this regard it will be greatly appreciated.

Best regards,
Daniël

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What are your thoughts on online communities with concerning views such as MGTOW, redpillers, and incels?

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How does one learn to be uncomfortable? Or practice being in uncomfortable situations?

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I am 22 i read books, i exercise, i meditate, i just graduated but i feel stuck, I can’t get a job Basically i feel behind and stuck

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What are your thoughts on gaming?

Is it okay to game with friends counting as a socializing time?
What’s a good balance with gaming? (Quit all of it?)

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Why when you’re happy, do you question why you should be happy and feel like you should be unhappy? Is it a self worth thing?

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What are your thoughts on why people talk about star signs and the impact of the moon's positioning on our mood as if it's proven fact?

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Do you practice what you preach?

Are you so socially and emotionally mature to follow through with your “diet” of life?

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What do you think on the philosophy that there is no free will?

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How do you make a life changing decision like leaving a marriage when there is nothing bad happening like abuse etc?

I have read so much on the topic and for as many arguments for yeses there are nos. You are doomed if you do and doomed if don’t. I turned to meditation and sport but it… (Show more)

I have read so much on the topic and for as many arguments for yeses there are nos. You are doomed if you do and doomed if don’t. I turned to meditation and sport but it feels like a distraction just taking your mind away. How do you balance distracting your mind with figuring out what you want? And how do you ever know the want is correct? Thank you!!

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As a Graduate student with family , How to finish your thesis on time ,when you have spent past 3 years in agony and pain ?

My extended family has been a trouble from the start and as I was starting my masters in a totally different field , it needed my undivided attention . But as I was new to marriage… (Show more)

My extended family has been a trouble from the start and as I was starting my masters in a totally different field , it needed my undivided attention .

But as I was new to marriage , and extended family , I got confused and at that time I chose my spousal relationship first .

As a result , I got so absorbed in my issues … I got severe health issues, panic attacks, and to add to the agony , I lost my precious years of preparation for job. Here I am at the end of 4th year , with a deadline in 2 months.

I just need a new perception to all these chaos and get back on work coz I know I can do it.

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How can I be more patient in a world that moves too fast?

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How does one deal with not being accepted by their family members for being an atheist?

In other words, should one have any remorse for being okay with abandoning their family for their family not accepting them for who they are along with their lifestyle?

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Hope Is Fucked? You wrote Don't hope But Don't Despair too Could like clear on this more?

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Any articles you've written in the past that you think no longer represents what you believe?

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How can confidence and vulnerability be reconciled?

If one is trying to be vulnerable and openly share and discuss fears, insecurities and other negative emotions with others (I'm skipping the positives here), won't one come across as less confident and be seen as… (Show more)

If one is trying to be vulnerable and openly share and discuss fears, insecurities and other negative emotions with others (I'm skipping the positives here), won't one come across as less confident and be seen as weak by other men and a "beta male"/"nice guy" by women?

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How to handle/think about crushes on other people when in a happy relationship?

When in a happy relationship, how normal is it to develop crushes/feelings for other people?
How should we process the feeling and should we discuss it with our partner and/or crush?

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Do you, like Edward Slingerland, think we act like insects even though we are primates?

Slingerland’s hypothesis of alcohol consumption and evolution was explored on a CBC radio program I heard recently and his observation of people in a city behaving like insects with sophisticated cooperation struck a chord as we… (Show more)

Slingerland’s hypothesis of alcohol consumption and evolution was explored on a CBC radio program I heard recently and his observation of people in a city behaving like insects with sophisticated cooperation struck a chord as we are not hardwired to have one role as colonies of bugs do. I am always interested in how we can better realize our natural abilities and be better at being mammals/ecological beings and I thought perhaps sometimes you think about this too.

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Why are REALLY young girls interested in me?

It started when I was married and I noticed younger girls staring me down. Now that I’m divorced (due to unrelated issues) I continue to be aggressively pursued by girls under 18, which freaks me out.… (Show more)

It started when I was married and I noticed younger girls staring me down. Now that I’m divorced (due to unrelated issues) I continue to be aggressively pursued by girls under 18, which freaks me out. Is this normal? There one I am extremely fond of however I’ve been warned about her specifically. FYI: Nothings ever happened as I’d like to not go to prison. Need an outside perspective on this one. Thanks!

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