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Hi Mark currently I’m dealing with an issue, most people look at religion to overcome drug addiction but honestly reading your book helped.

So people turn to higher power in NA or AA which I don’t see working for me as I’m not religious and instead of “spirituality” in my life I want to try a different approach. Will… (Show more)

So people turn to higher power in NA or AA which I don’t see working for me as I’m not religious and instead of “spirituality” in my life I want to try a different approach. Will having an alternative work to overcoming instant gratification? I’m not saying those programs don’t work just not for everyone. Basically my question is “Why is developing drug addiction bad”? More specifically what will it do to your growth in life developing to the later stages of maturity will it impede growth? Why chase a “feeling” you will never truly achieve yet be okay with wasting. time and money? Why do people just make peace with fucking up their lives over substances?

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Hi Mark No question !!! Just a big Thank you. Just for everything. Rodrigo

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Literally how the fuck do I find the will power to push myself for something I really want. Even if it is a painful, taxing process?

I’m currently applying for the police force and the process is long and the fitness part is really testing me (I am coming back from a couple of injuries) how do I stay focused and applied

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Is it possible to ‘kill’ my hot-temper?

I have a hot temper, got it from my dad. I am 43, very much capable op making my own decisions and taking my own responsibility and yet I have not been able to soften this… (Show more)

I have a hot temper, got it from my dad. I am 43, very much capable op making my own decisions and taking my own responsibility and yet I have not been able to soften this hot-tempered side of my personality. I don’t like this side of me, but more importantly, my husband and our children are not particularly fond of my sometimes ‘passionate’ way to deal with frustration/anger/irritation/. Yet, I cannot seem to figure out how to not get so angry, sometimes. I want to learn how to deal with it so that I do not pass this trait on to our children. Thank you!

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Why can’t I keep close friendships?

Hi! So I’m a 36 year old female. People tell me I’m charming and a nice person. Although once I begins a relationship (friendship) with someone it always fizzles out. Either they stop calling or I… (Show more)

Hi! So I’m a 36 year old female. People tell me I’m charming and a nice person. Although once I begins a relationship (friendship) with someone it always fizzles out. Either they stop calling or I feel like they’re not worth my time and energy. Why does this always happen and why do I constantly feel like I can’t give what people need?

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How can I overcome waiting for a response when you text or call someone you’ve been seeing?

I find myself waiting on a reply or call back from someone when fully knowing they are busy and will when they are free. Additionally everything has been going great. I’ve had some past experiences when… (Show more)

I find myself waiting on a reply or call back from someone when fully knowing they are busy and will when they are free. Additionally everything has been going great.

I’ve had some past experiences when someone would just “ghost me” so that fear always remains.

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Why did it take so long and why did it take a dream?

Mark, I was married for 23 years and most of it we had to deal with my ex's alcoholism. As you can imagine it wasn't good. The last ten years I wanted out but worried to… (Show more)

Mark, I was married for 23 years and most of it we had to deal with my ex's alcoholism. As you can imagine it wasn't good. The last ten years I wanted out but worried to much about how she was going to handle things. And I worried about havoing to start over myself. About two years before I left I met a lady at work. For about two years we became good friends but nothing else. No outside communications, just at work. Eventually I fell for her big time. I finally realized I needed to leave my marriage if I felt this way. It was a mess leaving but I did and tried to have a relationship with this friend. She wanted it to. The first few months were great but eventually it fell apart much to my chagrine. It took me a year and a half to get over my new woman. And it took a dream I had to do it. My question is three part. Why did I feel more for leaving her than my ex? And why did it take so long for me to move on from my after marriage relationship? And why did it take a dream to clear my mind? I was pretty torn up after the other woman and I didn;t work out. Thanks Kent

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I'm on disability, I'm not looking to make a killing, but I want to make more than the government gives me so I can get off of it.

I struggle so hard to figure out what I can do working from home and yet still make a decent amount of money. So naturally a few things come up, web design, writing, graphic design as… (Show more)

I struggle so hard to figure out what I can do working from home and yet still make a decent amount of money. So naturally a few things come up, web design, writing, graphic design as possibly a few things I could do. Truthfully I could learn anything. It's just that I have such a hard time with focus. What's a good way to keep at it, despite my focus? A way to not give up and feel as if, because of my lack of focus that I'll never be as good as others.

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Can you give me a practical, step-by-step guideline on how to write a suspense novel?

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What is a healthy relationship to have with my teenage children who live with their mom full-time?

I'm divorced. My oldest is in college and my 2 others live with their mom. She relocated them out of state with her, which made it much more expensive and thus more difficult to see my… (Show more)

I'm divorced. My oldest is in college and my 2 others live with their mom. She relocated them out of state with her, which made it much more expensive and thus more difficult to see my children. They have a new house, new family, and have started a new life. Lately, I've realized that I'm struggling with my current relationships with friends, significant others, dates, and my own siblings because (I believe) I'm down right bummed out about not having a "family" anymore, no more kids (they don't feel like my own anymore), and left behind. If I move on with creating my own life, I feel like I'm leaving them behind, so I feel stuck. I'm not sure how to maintain a healthy relationship with my children.

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Will you consider visiting Australia (with 3 other selected internationally recognised keynote speakers) in either 2018 or 2019?

I am who I am. - 1 draft business production plan in the making is a 2 week tour of Eastern Australia (Brisbane, Sydney, Melbourne) based upon Recovery Oriented Practice - (much more detail in my… (Show more)

I am who I am. - 1 draft business production plan in the making is a 2 week tour of Eastern Australia (Brisbane, Sydney, Melbourne) based upon Recovery Oriented Practice - (much more detail in my business plan and production elements....) - each keynote has their own philosophy and style. you are one of my choices. It's Time To Change: Mental Health Services & Approach /Recovery / Life ... in my generation is stuffed - next generation even worse. My background (academic/professional/personal) is acclaimed and complicated. I'm in a position to make a change in Australia....... Find me FB (Perspective Healing) - let me know if interested? If my choice of speakers will confirm - my companies can take care of the rest ..... Regards Haydn Brakell (credentials..... etc) email: perspectivehealing@gmil.com or mobile: +61 412 020 525. Cheers HB

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Doing magic when meeting people is a big 'no-no' in your book. It's needy. In my case I am a mentalist, though. So should I use it to meet people? Should I use it later in the interaction or not at all? And, yes, I'm serious.

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What will happen when society can't know what's real and who to trust?

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Discounts for Subscribers?

Hi, do you offer discounts (in Amazon) on your two books for your subscribers? Thanks for reading!

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I have seen remarkable results in increasing health with an approach that considers our millions of year of evolution as our guide. Are there other issues around mental and emotional health and philosophy that could benefit from a similar view?

The book Sex at Dawn was an eye opener to the potential that much like our (unfortunate) approach to food in the modern day world, we are running against some strong underlying fundamental forces that define… (Show more)

The book Sex at Dawn was an eye opener to the potential that much like our (unfortunate) approach to food in the modern day world, we are running against some strong underlying fundamental forces that define us as humans. That we are approaching things from a direction that almost inherently result in failure/trouble.

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Do most people learn from (or even just regret) hurting others?

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Is really doing boring shit together...taking steps to ensure a happy and healthy relationship?

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What is the membership program you use for your site

I have a small business, would like to set up a user friendly membership site and love the way yours works.

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Is my male best friend damaging the potential to have a healthy relationship?

I'm currently 28 and have begun dating again after 2 years out of my first relationship that ended with a restraining order, slashed tyres and cancelled tickets to Fiji (not even kidding). I believe my male… (Show more)

I'm currently 28 and have begun dating again after 2 years out of my first relationship that ended with a restraining order, slashed tyres and cancelled tickets to Fiji (not even kidding). I believe my male best friend of 10 years caused a rift in the relationship, and when I was single he would consistently guilt trip me when I spoke to or attempted to date other guys. My question is, should I just endure the guilt and date whoever I want or alternatively, cut contact with him briefly to see if my current dating life and relationships improve?

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Why does it seem so easy to be an adult, when it fact it is not?

It’s mostly Philosophical.

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Are some difficult things not worth doing because there exists an easier alternative that is potentially just as satisfying?

I love someone and he loves me too. Between the two of us, we're doing pretty well. But externally, both our families are from different religions and nationalities. His parents have been asking him why he… (Show more)

I love someone and he loves me too. Between the two of us, we're doing pretty well. But externally, both our families are from different religions and nationalities. His parents have been asking him why he needs to complicate things when he can find someone who is more similar. Hypothetically, it is possible for both of us to find such people, so should we give up what we have?

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What does it say about you that we are privy to the contents of your closet behind you in your AMA videos?

Did you not notice? Do you not care? Are you purposely making a statement, e.g., I don't care? Would this be giving a fuck you don't have to give?

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How can I find an effective communication training program that a state government organization could afford?

Communication in the forensic lab where I work is terrible. No one addresses conflict directly. Instead, most people gossip about whoever isn't around or snitches to a supervisor. This is in stark contrast with the police… (Show more)

Communication in the forensic lab where I work is terrible. No one addresses conflict directly. Instead, most people gossip about whoever isn't around or snitches to a supervisor. This is in stark contrast with the police officers and trooper I interact with on the job. I realize this is common in many workplaces, but I feel like we could do better.

I'd like to suggest an annual communication training course to management, but I don't know what makes such a course effective. I also don't know anything about finding grants or other sources of finding for something like this. Specific or general recommendations would really help out.

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What are healthy, deep seated motivations for change?

How do I root the desire to change parts of myself (make good habits, break bad ones, have uncomfortable experiences etc) in a healthy place and reconcile that with the idea that “I’m ok just as I am” ?

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How can I meditate / imagine properly if I can’t visualise?

I feel like I fail at the first hurdle as I can’t visualise / see suggested things as images in my mind.

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