You’ll Never Feel Ready

88 people had breakthroughs this week. Will the next one be you?

One thing for you to think about

Readiness is not a feeling. It’s a decision.

The voice in your head that says you’re not ready is not protecting you. It’s just stopping you from finding out what you’re actually capable of.

Two things for you to ask yourself

What have you been telling yourself you’re not ready for? What if you did it anyway?

One thing for you to try this week

Do the thing you’re not ready for. Let me know what happens.

Last week’s breakthroughs

In last week’s newsletter, I asked you to have the honest conversation you’ve been avoiding.

This was the nudge our first reader needed:

I have been putting off telling my soon to be ex-husband that I have filed for divorce. My lawyer has contacted his lawyer, but his lawyer cannot pick up the case until he says so. My options now are to have my lawyer email him directly, I can email him, or I have him served. Having him officially served is not the option I want to take for a lot of reasons. It’s not easy, but it’s time for the hard conversation.

We have been separated since December 2024, and it is time to officially move on. Emotionally, it hurts me to know that this is all so final. It is what I want, but that doesn’t make it any easier. This is my week to take the final step so the divorce process can finally start moving.

I have been working through this in therapy to understand the reason why I just cannot rip the bandaid off! It is a constant struggle. What it is costing me most is being able to move forward with the next chapter of my life and my relationship with myself. It is a constant limbo of emotions.

Thank you for the prompt this week! Here’s to taking the final step!

Our next reader had the “dirty” conversation with their mother:

This happened to me about a week ago. I was avoiding having tough discussions with my mother, I was doing so to let things be ‘normal.’ I started hiding one or two things but I didn’t realize slowly our discussions had been reduced to, ‘How are you?,’ ‘What’s more going on?,’ at one point just both of us asking the same thing.

I was realizing my relationship with my mother had become a false and shallow one. Finally, I stayed strong and told her the things I didn’t like about her recent decisions. I felt guilty at that time for blaming her but later I realized we both were able to come to a consensus and I started having wholesome and inclusive discussions with her again.

Yes, sometimes we need to discuss the ‘bad’ and ‘dirty’ sides as well, they help us to be who we are.

Finally, like Cheri, you might be pleasantly surprised by the honest conversation you’re avoiding:

Conflict and tough conversations is what I have been dreading for at least a year. Turns out having that hard conversation wasn’t so hard.

Our daughter and two kids have been living with us for 10 years. We have been frustrated for at least a year. My husband and I didn’t know how to tell her to grow up and move out.

She will be the big ‘35’ this year and decided to buy a condo and move out. She was hesitant to tell us she was moving and we were hesitant to tell her she needed to move out. Who wants to throw their grandchildren on the street? Not us!

Turns out we were all on the same page and should have had the tough conversation a long time ago.

Don’t be afraid of the tough conversations like we were.

As always, send your breakthroughs by simply replying to this email. Let me know if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.

Until next week,

Mark Manson

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