Relationships are hard. I know because I’ve fucked up my fair share of them. But the good news is you can rebuild them and find new ones assuming you’re willing to put in the work.
But the key is knowing what to work on. A lot of people assume that having healthy relationships means being more impressive, or being more attractive, or being right all the time. And actually, this constant desire to prove yourself to the people around you actually gets in the way.
A successful relationship is built around letting go. It’s about giving up control, giving up the need to be loved or wanted or right all the time.
This is a very counter-intuitive thing. And it took me many years and tears and failures to figure out. That’s why I’ve put together this collection of articles describing exactly what I’ve learned and how these lessons can benefit you. The content below will help you find the love you deserve, heal old wounds that seemingly never leave, and deal with the conflict or stress of whatever you’re dealing with now. It’s all free, as well.
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LOVE AND ITS ROLE IN RELATIONSHIPS
Despite what every movie you’ve ever seen would like you to think, relationships actually need more than love to survive.
Relationships with conditions are not relationships at all. My thoughts on unconditional love.
I’ve overdone it on booze before. I’ve overdone it on romance before. Here’s how they’re a lot alike.
What Makes Healthy Relationships Healthy (And Toxic Ones Toxic)
Here I explore a stupidly simple question: Why would you ever want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?
Our culture sometimes gives us some pretty toxic examples of how to be in a relationship. What’s worse is that many of us think they’re normal.
The flip side of the coin. Sometimes what people think is bad for a relationship is actually pretty healthy.
A crowdsourced article I did from readers who have been in long (long) term relationships.
You can have chemistry with someone without being compatible, and you can be compatible with someone and have no chemistry. Here’s how that works.
DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS IN CULTURE
We do a really, really shitty job of talking about sex in our society, which leaves us with some pretty screwed up beliefs and causes a lot damage down the road.
A look at the ridiculous and toxic archetypes of masculinity and femininity in the fairytale stories we all grew up with.
Flirting is a skill we should all perfect, but in the English-speaking world, we really shit the bed on this one.
THE HOW-TO’S OF DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS
Solid boundaries are essential for any relationship to survive and thrive. Here, I talk about some of the ways you can start building stronger ones.
I’ve been in several long distance relationships and lived to tell about it. This is my advice for anyone who’s not so sure of how to go about one.
If you’ve been dating disasters for a most of your life, don’t give up yet—there’s still plenty of reason to hold onto hope.
It’s not fun, but there comes a time when we all must break a heart. Here are a few tips to help you make a clean break without shattering someone else’s dignity in the process.
If you’re wondering why you’re always single, the answer isn’t really all that difficult.
THE SCIENCE OF LOVE, ATTRACTION, AND ATTACHMENT
If you’ve never heard of attachment theory before, prepare to have your mind blown. Knowing your primary attachment style will probably explain more about your relationships—past and present—than you ever thought possible.
Research over the past couple of decades has begun to uncover three primary “loves” that we experience at different stages of a relationship.