Look, I know you probably came here looking for a promise of fairies and rainbows and those really nice mints that hotels leave on your pillows, but I’m here to tell you that happiness doesn’t work that way.
Most people just think that to be happy, they need to feel good all the time. Not only is this not true, but it’s actually part of the problem. It’s part of what’s holding you back.
Happiness is not something you achieve. It’s not something you do or some place you get to. Happiness is something you inhabit. Everything you need to be happy is within you today, right now. Therefore, being happy is more about removing and letting go of the messed up beliefs you have about happiness.
So I’ve put together a collection of articles on what happiness really is and the steps you can take in your own life to be happier—or, at least be a little less miserable all the time, which is a good start for some people.
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WHAT HAPPINESS IS (AND ISN’T)
Like anything worth having in life, happiness comes at a price.
Despite what you’ve been told for years now, happiness has nothing to do with “positive thinking” and manifesting your destiny. Here’s my take on the bullshitty bullshit of “The Secret”.
Being genuinely content in your life has everything to do with learning how to be grateful in life.
Part of being happy is knowing how not to be happy. Here are a few ways you can be miserable if you really try.
Being happy requires a strong sense of your own values and metrics in life.
HOW TO FIND HAPPINESS IN YOUR OWN LIFE
This might sound cliché, but happiness is found from within.
A lot of problems that make people miserable aren’t really problems. You’ll be fine.
Finding joy and meaning in your life doesn’t have to be difficult. They’re often right in front of you.
Mediocrity as a goal sucks, but mediocrity as a result is okay most of the time.
How we define happiness and meaning changes over our lifetimes. Here are my thoughts on how it works.
Being happier involves being more self-aware of your present state of mind and un-fusing your thoughts from your emotions.
HOW TO BE HAPPIER WITHOUT DELUDING YOURSELF
Yes, it sounds crazy, but maybe you’re trying too hard to be happy.
Misery can often be caused by the our thought patterns. I delved into how it works in this excerpt from my book.
Being happier has a lot to do with being flexible and letting some things go in life. Here are 3 life skills that help you do just that.
We all have a little self-loathing going on from time to time. Here are some ways to be a little nicer to yourself without being too delusional in the process.
Ironically, the self-help industry is a major source of misery these days. Here are some of the issues that arise when you get too far into this stuff.
Here I talk about what getting rid of just about all my wordly possessions did for my happiness.
Being happy requires us to let go of our egos and identities to some degree. One way of doing that is by having a diversified identity that isn’t too focused on “being” one thing.
Self-awareness, understanding, and compassion are all cornerstones of happiness. I’ve yet to find a better way of achieving these than through meditation.
Attachment—to things, to people, to our own egos, to our problems, etc.—can be a major source of suffering in life. But letting go of all of that presents its own set of challenges.